Mens Emotional Reality: Love, Life, Dating & Navigating Divorce.

There are certain conversations that stay with you long after the microphones are switched off.My recent podcast conversation with Photis was one of them.

I had thought much about this guest - his energy, his work and the need behind the service he provides. I am such an advocate for mens mental wellness and this guest, Photis, supporting men who’s emotions are going through the mill in life, in love and in the loss of love and break down of family dynamics. 

The voice of men is often ignored and silenced by the needs of others socially being louder. I think about men who suffer in silence, I am mission driven to help men find their voice, language their emotions and feel accepted in a way that works for them.  

You see, my experience of spaces where men do the work have been spiritual spaces and ‘conscious’ spaces. Often those spaces use language that isn’t widely utilised by the ‘heteronormative’ male and the way most men view the world and the relationships has been different to the spaces I have seen.

The unique and wonderful thing about Photis is that he is a straight talking male who has lived through heartbreak, marriage breakdown and been in the world of finance in London.

He speaks truthfully and candidly about having to box away feelings, move through emotions fast to conform to the energy on the trading floor and he is mindful of what men go through in society when it comes to living through heartbreak and trying to heal.

The work is often done solo, it’s silent and it’s lonely. Men aren’t usually invited bv other men to feel, language and communicate the motions they are going through. Women societally don’t often create spaces for men to move through those motions with them. So - - men ‘toughen up’, they strap in and keep the ship sailing forward in silence. Boxing away the hurts by default hurts more and the patterns and wounding sits in new relationships, silently on their minds and in their hearts. 

In this episode of Relatable: The Love, Dating & Relating Podcast we did not present a perfect version of love, relationships or human connection - but we explored something much more meaningful: what it actually takes to build emotional intimacy in today’s world.

As someone who has spent over a decade working within the dating and relationship space, I’ve witnessed the extraordinary shift in how people approach love. I also see what men go through but aren’t often invited to explore in social spaces. 

Thank you to Photis for such an open, thoughtful and emotionally intelligent conversation. And thank you to everyone who continues to support these conversations around love, relationships and emotional wellbeing. 

Mens wellbeing matters, more than ever.

I want us to eradicate the era of loneliness and create safe spaces for all to language their emotions. Watch the episode here.

Much Love, Sarah Louise x